The 16 MBTI Personality Types' "Desire to Share" Ranking

`A graphic titled "Ranking of the 16 personality types based on their desire to share" featuring illustrations of ISTP, INTP, INFP, and INTJ, personality types often perceived as less likely to share their feelings.`

Feelings are an integral part of the human experience, yet the experience of expressing them can be vastly different, which may depend on your MBTI personality types. Some people are happy to share their inner world, while others would rather keep quiet. The willingness of different personality types to share their feelings varies greatly and can become a source of conflict in many couples.

The "Sharing Kings" of MBTI Relationship

According to the official 16-personality website, the personality types most likely to agree that they "feel a strong connection with others" are:

  • No. 1: 83.9% of ESFJs (The Consul)
  • No. 2: 79.5% of ESFPs (The Entertainer)
  • No. 3: 78.6% of ENFJs (The Protagonist)
  • No. 4: 76.2% of ENFPs (The Campaigner)
  • No. 5: 64.5% of ESTJs (The Executive)
  • No. 6: 59.8% of ESTPs (The Entrepreneur)
  • No. 7: 57.5% of ISFJs (The Defender)
  • No. 8: 56.1% of ENTJs (The Commander)

Coming in at number one, it's clear that ESFJs (The Consul) focus on creating an overall atmosphere of harmonious connection. They often dislike silence and try to fill the conversational gaps with friendly discussions and comments. Building a mbti relationship with ESFJs usually means sharing life experiences, exploring each other's likes and dislikes, and some practical tips.

An ESFJ, the most willing to share among all personality types, is shown happily looking at their phone after posting a picture of their dog on social media, with multiple heart-shaped like icons around the screen.

In second place, ESFPs (The Entertainer) are proactive and like to create a relaxed and cheerful atmosphere. They love to make people laugh and share their latest experiences. They are also good at defusing tension with a well-timed joke.

The third-place ENFJs (The Protagonist) also tend to feel uncomfortable with silence—and often try to fill conversational gaps. They like to explore big-picture topics, concepts, and psychological insights with words. Similar to ENFJs, fourth-place ENFPs (The Campaigner) love to bring people together for laughter or deep conversations. ENFP types love to infer possibilities and create options—they become more talkative when their imagination is sparked. When a conversation is shallow or superficial, they may appear quieter and more reserved. #MBTI_Deep_Relationship_Report

Who Has the Least "Desire to Share" in MBTI?

According to the official 16-personality website, the personality types least likely to agree that they "feel a strong connection with others" are:

  • No. 1: 22.5% of INTPs (The Logician)
  • No. 2: 24.9% of INTJs (The Architect)
  • No. 3: 24.8% of ISTPs (The Virtuoso)
  • No. 4: 27.6% of ISTJs (The Logistician)
  • No. 5: 49.6% of ENTPs (The Debater)
  • No. 6: 51.3% of INFPs (The Mediator)
  • No. 7: 53.2% of ISFPs (The Adventurer)
  • No. 8: 55.4% of INFJs (The Advocate)

Coming in at number one, INTPs (The Logician) are analytical and innovative people who are more interested in exploring concepts, debating theories, or exchanging factual information.

Sometimes, it can be genuinely difficult for INTPs to extract and find the right words to express their feelings. Their minds are naturally more inclined to understand logical connections and theoretical explanations than internal emotional realities.

An illustration of an INTP, a personality type with minimal desire to share, sitting on a giant smartphone and interacting with various online tools and social media icons.

In second place, INTJs (The Architect) are generally very quiet and reserved.

Unless they happen to meet someone who shares their passion for exploring theoretical concepts, analyzing possibilities, and planning long-term goals. Many times, INTJs feel that if they share their feelings with others, they will expose a very vulnerable, private self that they are not entirely confident in—they need absolute trust in the person they are talking to. You can find out more in our INTJ Deep Relationship Report.

In third place, ISTPs (The Virtuoso) are known as "lone wolves," maintaining social independence and emotional detachment.

Among all personality types, Turbulent Virtuosos (ISTP-T) are most likely to agree that they don't feel a strong connection with others (80%).

ISTPs prefer to "do things" rather than "talk about things," which is evident in their leisure activities.

An illustration of an ISTP, a personality type that prefers doing things to talking about them, happily surfing a wave at the beach.

Many ISTPs even find it difficult to understand their own feelings from moment to moment, instead focusing on analytical thinking or practical experiences. Introverted Feeling (the mbti function responsible for processing internal feelings, values, and motivations) is the eighth and seemingly distant and confusing function for ISTPs. In situations that require a lot of emotional sharing, they can feel uncertain and insecure. 

In fourth place, ISTJs (The Logistician) are more reserved, but they like to discuss facts, methods, and past stories.

If they are in a group of people who need to achieve a goal, but everyone is just idly chatting, they are likely to take control of the situation and steer the conversation in a more productive direction.

In fifth place, despite ENTPs (The Debater) having a natural inclination to understand others,

sharing their own emotions can be a barrier for this personality type. They may feel that their feelings are too complex to express, or they may worry that others won't understand.

In sixth place, INFPs (The Mediator) are introspective personalities who tend to listen more than they express.

 INFPs are happy to delve into movies, books, or TV shows that move them emotionally—they enjoy talking about their creative pursuits or possibilities they are eager to explore.

An illustration of the ISTP personality type, a person wearing yellow goggles and holding a hammer.

Cautious Virtuoso: Jcoffeet (ISTP-T)

I really don't open up to anyone. When I'm emotional, I usually just sit alone and listen to music. When my emotions are strong, being around other people just makes them worse.

An illustration of the INTJ personality type, a person with purple hair and black-framed glasses.

Assertive Architect: Trevor (INTJ-A)

I'd rather be asked than share my feelings proactively. We often feel there's no need to just come out and share our past, especially if the partner isn't obviously interested from the start. I don't think we're afraid of being judged. If we actually have a partner, someone we care about enough to build a mbti relationship with, we know we can be ourselves and show our true selves. After all, an INTJ being with you means they've given a lot of thought to choosing you.

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