What The NT Personalities Look For In A Friendship

What qualities do you value most in a friend? A survey of 5,000 people by a US psychology website revealed what different personalities most desire in friendship. In the last issue, we analyzed the friendship needs of the NF Green group. So, what do the NT Purple group in the 16 personalities value most in a friend? For a deeper understanding of interpersonal relationships, explore what mbti compatibility looks like.

What the 16 Personalities Look for in a Friendship

1. INTP (The Logician)

Top 5 traits INTPs look for in a friend:

• Honesty
• Trustworthiness
• Loyalty
• Respect
• Humor

Least voted for categories: Helpfulness, Adventurousness, Patience, Generosity.

For INTPs, honesty is the ultimate element of a friendship. If you like to sugarcoat or avoid the truth, you're talking to a brick wall, because INTPs value rational sincerity.

Trustworthiness is a close second—these logical people want a friend who is honest, who does what they say they'll do, and who is not manipulative or coercive.

Loyalty is a solid third. Of course, INTPs might get lost in their own thoughts and occasionally fall into a data analysis rabbit hole. But once they make a commitment, they won't give up at the first sign of trouble.

Respect is another cornerstone of friendship—they appreciate a companion who values their ideas and respects their space, autonomy, and freedom.

Finally, don't forget a sense of humor. While INTPs love to delve into philosophical questions, they also possess a dry wit that can catch you off guard in the best possible way. If you can skillfully blend wit with humor, you'll likely earn a special place in an INTP's heart.

2. ENTP (The Debater)

Top 5 traits ENTPs look for in a friend:

• Trustworthiness
• Humor
• Loyalty
• Honesty
• Fun

Least voted for categories: Guidance and Advice, Patience, Helpfulness, Generosity.

For ENTPs, trustworthiness is the most urgent condition in a friendship. They are known for being extremely honest, so it's no surprise that trustworthiness and honesty both made it into their top five. If you want to win an ENTP over, don't sugarcoat, manipulate, lie, or twist the facts.

Ranking second is a sense of humor. If you can't take a joke, you might need to try harder, as ENTPs can find funny, quirky, and randomly hilarious elements in almost any situation. Their ability to connect and see peculiar relationships shows up in a way that is side-splitting (and even a little offensive).

Loyalty ranks third for ENTPs. That's right, ENTPs might not show up on time, and they might not respect authority or rules, but they will absolutely stand up for a friend.

Honesty is in fourth place. If you are not willing to tell the truth even in difficult times, don't bother getting close to an ENTP. One of the things ENTPs hate most in a friendship or romantic relationship is being deceived or manipulated.

Fun is in fifth place. ENTPs are adventurous and optimistic, and they love to look for possibilities in any situation. It's almost impossible for them to commit to anything that isn't fun.

3. INTJ (The Architect)

Top 5 traits INTJs look for in a friend:

• Loyalty
• Trustworthiness
• Honesty
• Respect
• Dependability

Least voted for categories: Generosity, Helpfulness, Guidance and Advice, Adventurousness.

What INTJs value most is loyalty—for Architects, a friend is not just temporary—they desire long-term companionship. This is a person who can be with them through intellectual debates, rare emotional fluctuations, and major life transitions.

Trustworthiness follows closely behind. They want friends who keep their promises and do what they say they will do (preferably on time).

Honesty is a solid third. INTJs have a precise radar for lies, so don't try to deceive them or beat around the bush—be sincere! If you are genuine, they will appreciate you even more.

Next is respect. INTJs need to know that their ideas are valued and their opinions are taken seriously. They are very willing to engage in deep discussions, so don't be afraid to leave the shallow end of the conversation.

Finally, rounding out the top five is dependability—doing what you say you will do. INTJs respect people whose words and actions are consistent, because in their world, actions speak louder than words.

4. ENTJ (The Commander)

Top 5 traits ENTJs look for in a friend:

• Insights
• Trustworthiness
• Dependability
• Humor
• Listening

Least voted for categories: Adventurousness, Boundaries, Non-judgmental, Generosity.

For ENTJs, the most important thing in a friendship is insights. They are not just interested in small talk or superficial chatter; they hope that you have profound insights and opinions on deeper topics.

Trustworthiness is a close second—without a solid foundation of trust, ENTJs won't waste their time. They prefer friendships built on transparency, so be genuine when you are with an ENTJ. People who seem to be hiding something or sugarcoating things are often avoided by them.

Dependability is in third place on their friendship wish list. Do what you say you will do, and be consistent in your words and actions. Hypocrisy and two-faced behavior are highly distasteful to these executives.

A sense of humor is in fourth place. ENTJs are witty and sharp, skilled in sarcasm, and know how to make a joke at the right time—just be prepared to be teased occasionally.

Finally, they appreciate good listening skills. ENTJs may lead the way, but they know that effective communication is a two-way street. They cherish friends who can actively listen and participate in a conversation, rather than dominating the entire dialogue with a monologue.

Cautious Logician: Nexus (INTP-T)

I really do prefer friends who are honest and fact-focused rather than emotional. Because our rational brains prefer to process more reliable data, which strengthens our confidence in our conclusions. Logic and facts have no room for your self-deception, emotions, feelings, and lies.

 

Cautious Commander: Beatrix (ENTJ-T)

I know an INFJ friend whom I admire very much. She is a bit younger than me, but her way of thinking is very wise and insightful. I have never seen her handle things with such balance. When we discuss some subtle and complex topics, her Fe-Ti traits shine brightly because she can always find a satisfying middle ground.